My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System
A structured, practical approach to creating meaningful relationship change
My Love Your Love is a comprehensive couples therapy system developed by Clinical Psychologists Helen Robertson and Shahn Baker Sorekli.
Developed through years of working with couples, the system provides a clear and practical framework for understanding relationship difficulties and creating meaningful change.
Combining evidence-based couples therapy, The 8 Love Links relationship framework, psychoeducation and practical between-session work, My Love Your Love helps couples move beyond simply talking about their problems and start making lasting changes in their relationship.
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What is the My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System?
My Love Your Love is a structured approach to couples therapy designed to help couples better understand their relationship, identify the patterns that keep them stuck and develop practical skills for creating change.
The system provides both couples and therapists with a shared language and clear framework for navigating the complexities of relationships.
Rather than taking a one-size-fits-all approach, My Love Your Love helps identify the unique strengths, challenges and dynamics within each relationship and creates a roadmap for therapy.
The My Love Your Love Approach
The My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System brings together four key components to provide a comprehensive and practical approach to understanding relationships and creating meaningful change.
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The Theory: The 8 Love Links
At the foundation of the My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System is The 8 Love Links, our practical framework for understanding the key dynamics that shape relationships.
Developed by Clinical Psychologists Helen Robertson and Shahn Baker Sorekli, The 8 Love Links provides couples with a shared language for understanding their relationship, identifying patterns and recognising the areas that may need attention.
The framework is explored in our book of the same name The 8 Love Links, which combines psychological insights, practical tools and exercises to help couples better understand and strengthen their relationship.
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The Practice: Creating Change at Home
Real relationship change happens outside the therapy room.
Both partners are encouraged to actively practise what they learn in therapy between sessions. Depending on your relationship and therapy goals, this may include psychoeducation, reading, exercises, structured conversations and personalised homework.
This between-session work helps couples turn insight into action, practise new skills and create meaningful changes in the way they relate to one another every day.
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The Therapy: A Structured Roadmap for Change
The My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System uses The 8 Love Links framework to guide the therapy process.
Through a comprehensive assessment, your therapist develops an understanding of your unique relationship and the patterns, dynamics and challenges affecting you as a couple. Together, you create a clear roadmap for therapy, identifying what needs to change and how you can work towards your relationship goals.
The system provides a structured approach while recognising that every couple and every relationship is different.
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The Training: Teaching the System to Therapists
The My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System is also taught to psychologists, counsellors, psychotherapists and other mental health professionals.
Our professional training teaches therapists how to use the My Love Your Love System in their own clinical practice, including the comprehensive assessment process, The 8 Love Links framework, therapy roadmap, interventions and practical homework.
The training provides therapists with a clear and comprehensive system for working with couples.
The 8 Fundamental Pillars of Thriving Relationships
The evidence-informed, structured approach to couples therapy that gives you a clear roadmap to relationship success.
At the heart of the My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System are The 8 Love Links: eight fundamental areas that work together to create the foundation for a thriving relationship.
Each Love Link influences the others, creating a comprehensive framework for understanding your relationship and identifying where change is needed. By strengthening the links individually and together, couples can build greater connection, resilience and lasting love.
The 8 Love Links provide the foundation for our couples therapy, helping your therapist develop a clear understanding of your relationship and create a roadmap for meaningful change.
What are the 8 Love Links?
Eight interconnected areas that form the foundation of a thriving relationship
The 8 Love Links provide a practical framework for understanding the key elements of a relationship. Each Love Link represents an important area of connection and relationship functioning.
Like links in a chain, each area is interconnected. When one link is struggling, it can affect other parts of the relationship. By understanding and strengthening each Love Link, couples can build a stronger, more resilient and connected relationship.
Each Love Link is interconnected. Strengthening one can positively influence the others, while difficulties in one area can affect the relationship as a whole. Together, the 8 Love Links provide a comprehensive roadmap for understanding and strengthening your relationship.
The Me in We
Developing self-awareness and accountability, and understanding the role you play in your relationship.
Conflict Compass
Understanding and changing unhelpful conflict patterns so you can navigate disagreements in healthier ways.
Couples Base Camp
Creating a secure foundation built on trust, safety, shared boundaries and a strong couple bond.
Deep Connections
Building closeness, companionship and meaningful connection as you grow together throughout life.
Magic Moments
Creating positive everyday interactions that bring more joy, appreciation and connection to your relationship.
Baggage Claim
Understanding the vulnerabilities and insecurities you each bring to the relationship and learning how to heal together.
Feeling the Story
Learning to understand, validate and emotionally connect with yourself and your partner.
Sex & Desire
Exploring sexual connection, desire and intimacy to build a fulfilling and lasting sexual relationship.
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The 8 Love Links
Explore the Book & Framework
Discover The 8 Love Links, the framework at the heart of the My Love Your Love Couples Therapy System. Our book explores the eight fundamental pillars of thriving relationships, with practical insights, strategies and exercises to help you strengthen your relationship.